“You need to change. Now!”
That’s the world we live in. We want everything now, now now. When it comes to our relationships and unhealthy behaviors, the day we decide to make changes whether through self-motivation or at the request of a someone else, that’s typically the day we (or they) want them to happen. In many cases, there is no margin for error or regression. You either get it together right NOW, or you go.
Whether it’s repairing trust, getting over old wounds, learning new ways to communicate or developing healthier habits, change is hard. Where relationships are concerned, discovering new ways to process and express emotion is possibly one of the most difficult things a person can do. But it is possible. It can happen. And while it’s not just like riding a bike, if you have the will, a level of commitment to do the necessary work and a good support system, success is possible.
Where I see people and couples getting into trouble is in their expectations of what they believe to be a reasonable time frame. Allow me to burst your bubble on that subject: there’s no such thing.
This is a video I was recently sent that uses the just like riding a bike metaphor to explain (in terms a three year old can understand) just how difficult (but possible) change really is.
You will stumble, fall and feel like a failure at times. All normal. Like most new things you attempt to do, if you stick with them long enough, you can succeed.
At the risk of contradicting myself, this video is something that can actually change your life, right now.
And remember, it’s never too late to make positive, healthy changes. Never.