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  • You Say You Want a Resolution

    It’s December 29th. Have you made your new years resolutions yet? Don’t worry if you haven’t. You can just use last years list; just like you did last year and every year before that.

    Lose weight. Get organized. Save money. Get healthy. Drink less. Etc. Etc. Etc. Continue Reading

    December 29, 2014 • Addiction, General Life Lessons, Therapy Through Movies • Views: 2377

  • Relationships 101: When One Person Gets Sober and the Other Does Not

    There’s nothing unusual about the consumption of alcohol on a first date. Let’s face it, this can be an extremely unnerving experience and a shared bottle of wine or a couple of martini’s can be just the elixir that will get you through those first date jitters. It can help you to lower your guard and move quickly past that initial nervousness and neurosis (to say nothing of what it can do to jump-start sexual intimacy).  Where it needs to be of concern is if and when alcohol and/or drugs become one of your common interests and one of the very fun things the two of you bond over.   Continue Reading

    September 12, 2014 • Addiction, Relationships, Therapy Through Movies • Views: 3064

  • Daily Adjustments: How to Re-frame Life’s Everyday Inconveniences

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    I am constantly being adjusted. I can’t keep track of how often it happens, but everyday I am becoming more and more aware of it.

    Perhaps you’ve seen the Matt Damon film, “The Adjustment Bureau,” or read the Phillip K. Dick short story, “Adjustment Team,” on which it is based?  The film is a capable and entertaining enough romantic drama about a man who suddenly discovers that the events of his life aren’t necessarily always his choosing. That occasionally, his destiny is given a slight shift or nudge by members of a secret world known as the Adjustment Bureau. The adjustment could come in the form of something as simple as a stranger bumping into you on the street or as elaborate as the freezing of a specific moment in time so that members of the team can actually come in and make little alterations. The kinds of changes that you would never notice let alone think twice about but in the grand scheme amount to you never meeting a specific person, getting a certain job or having a real moment of clarity. All because in an instant you were made to look a different way thereby missing a detail that otherwise would have set you down an entirely alternate path with its own set of realities and consequences. A completely innocuous event which in the grander scheme causes a ripple effect that forever alters the outcome of the human race. Continue Reading

    September 4, 2014 • Randomness, Therapy Through Movies • Views: 2499

  • High Fidelity: The Illusion of the Perfect Companion

    Have you seen this movie HIGH FIDELITY? Released in 2000, based on the book of same name by Nick Hornby, it stars John Cusack, Tim Robbins, Joan Cusack, Sara Gilbert and Jack Black in one of his earliest roles. There’s some really great stuff to take away from this film in terms of struggles connected with relationship commitment, dating, and the quest to find the perfect woman.

    When the film begins, Cusack is a veritable man-child, in the throes of a breakup from his former long-term, live-in girlfriend. She’s an up and coming lawyer and had been relegated to being the parent in their relationship. There’s nothing groundbreaking in terms of how and why they split up. When push comes to shove, it’s his fear of commitment that prohibits him from going “all in” where this relationship is concerned. In typical romantic comedy fashion, it’s a point that he unfortunately doesn’t pick up on until it’s too late and she’s moved on to greener pastures.

    Cusack becomes desperate to understand why every relationship he’s been in has ended in break-up with each girlfriend ultimately leaving him for a relationship upgrade of sorts.  He is finally forced to deal with his own responsibility in the demise of his relationships due to his not being able to understand that what he’s been struggling to find simply does not exist.

    The reality most men (and some women too) very often don’t figure out until it’s too late is that despite the fact that someone like Kate Upton might seem like the perfect woman, when all is said and done, she too has blemishes on her skin, odors permeating from her body and moods that can most likely change with the wind (like all of us). That what he’s been yearning for is an illusion.  It simply does not exist. Sound familiar?

    Check it out. If you haven’t seen it, it will become one of those movies you can watch any time it comes on (like most of Cusack’s movies).

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    High Fidelity on IMDB

    July 15, 2014 • Relationships, Therapy Through Movies • Views: 2344